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Specialist Clinical Psychologist Çiğdem BİLGEN explains this situation as follows: kontrol Control of objects, control of environment, control of toilet, while giving strength to the child while at the same time, it causes the anxiety of losing. When told to share the toy car with a playmate, the child does not even know if he can take it back. He is in danger of losing control of his car and feeling of ownership. Naturally, the response would be 'no'. This anxious and angry reaction of the child to share may seem meaningless to an adult; but it is worth remembering that this response is a natural response to the child's natural developmental period. ”
In short, non-sharing is one of the characteristics of this period. That doesn't mean he won't be a shareholder all his life. Please note that children usually start sharing from the age of 4 years.
Do not force your child!In general, parents are forced to share their belongings with their child's brother or friends. Taking your toy forcibly, threatening 'I will complain to your father in the evening' and punishing him increases the anger of the child to share. As a result of such statements, your child thinks that he has lost his toy completely. In this way, your child does not learn to share.
When you teach your child to share, make sure that the object he / she shares is still under his control, that he / she still owns the object. For example, to your child “Now we will paint together. What color crayons do you want to give to your friend? Sorun With this expression your child feels that he still has control over the crayons. Your child chooses and decides which color crayon to give to his or her friend.
Some parents also advise not to share. 'Don't give it to your friends, eat it yourself!' or 'Don't give your pens to anyone!' he warns.
What can be done?• The more sharing you are, the more sharing your child will be • The more you play with your child. The game you play contains a sharing theme. For example, play with your child's toys alternately, evenly when he shares something with his toys: • Ask for your child's toy. Take care of the toy for a few minutes and give it back to your child. • Learn how to undo what you're giving • Make a share box. Put the toys your child wants to share in this box. Tell him that if his brother or friend wants a toy, he can give it out of the box. Understand when there are toys your child doesn't want to share. Make sure that your child has something special. • If all this did not work, set a time sharing rule. When sharing is very necessary, set a time sharing rule for children. Set a time to play with a toy. Replace the toys after that time. Of course, your child must be at least 3-4 years old to understand it.
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