Experts, the idea that their children depend on them mothers who first get to review their perceptions of their children suggested. According to experts who think that when people who want to sleep at night with their mother, who do not go to school not to leave their mother, who refuse to leave the house due to marriage or different reasons are often encountered, it is generally thought that these people find it difficult to leave their mothers; Who is addicted here? Children or mothers? Nur Ağdelen, an expert psychologist from the Mirror Education and Psychological Counseling Center, who shares her views on the dependence between mother and child, said, önemli It is important for mothers to realize their roles change over time and behave accordingly ”. Reminding that a mother will be transformed into a mother who will go to university and then a mother who will marry and make a grandchild, Ağdelen suggested the following: rolü The role of motherhood is changing in each of these transition processes. Therefore, according to the needs of your child, in the first two years with him skin to skin, in the following years, an arm away from him, a little more eye with him, then in the soul, if you want to be next to him. ” Nur Ağdelen pointed out that being in a role that is important enough to ensure the continuity of life has become overwhelming for some mothers, it has become the most important purpose of life for some mothers and that some mothers may forget how they were before, bundan Nur Ağdelen said: ik they may want to continue their lives by embracing the role. It may be difficult for mothers who are experiencing this to support the separation of their children from them. With the sense of usefulness that a mother feels, they are able to make meals for their children, quit their jobs, completely shelve their personal needs and pay full attention to the needs of their children. This type of mothers most 'he can not eat, I'm eating', 'We'll be late until prepared, I'll dress',' I'm afraid to be alone at night, let me sleep ',' If I help the lessons will be more successful words. At this point, mothers have to ask themselves which of these belongs to me and which belongs to her. ”Do not create unmarried children so as not to leave you alone!Although the mother's fears, worries and desires are not clearly expressed, Nur Ağdelen, an expert psychological counselor, stressed that they are felt by children. Larda In such cases, the need of the child can be mixed. Situations that appear to be in need of the child may actually be the mother's need. For example, a mother who is afraid to sleep alone with her husband going abroad can alleviate her anxiety by taking her child with her. Children may experience a dilemma in moving away from the mother in such situations: On the one hand, they want to develop and become independent; On the other hand, they may want to stop thinking about their sad, anxious mother. The child may refuse to go to school not to leave her mother alone at home, may not want to study in another city so that her mother is not upset, or even marry so that her parents are not alone. The child or young person may not be doing it consciously. All of these are processes that are so invisible and often unaware that, from the outside, they can be perceived as the choice of the child or the young. ”Keep up with the change in your motherhood role!At this point, Specialist Counselor Nur Ağdelen advised mothers: • You can change positions according to your child's developmental characteristics. When your child becomes independent, you can now focus on your own life and run to your child's help when he or she needs your help. • Depending on your child's development process, your motherhood role also changes. According to the needs of your child, the first two years with him skin to skin, in the following years, an arm away from him, a little older eye to eye with him, then in the spirit, if you want to be next.