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The involvement of a new sibling in your family is a very important process both for your first child and for you. If you have planned this new baby with your partner, if you are willing, if you think you are ready, if you believe that the baby came at the right time and condition, your child will share the pleasure of your new baby with a little jealousy. From time to time your older child may decline in the process of adapting to the new situation. So they may seem to have lost what they previously won. For example; a child who has just gained toilet training can begin to pee.
Acıbadem Kadıköy Hospital Specialist Pedagogue Ayşegül Salgın, When the mother first learns of her pregnancy, she must share it with her child and add it to your preparation process. At this point, the emotion and attitude shown to the child is of great importance. Because the mother may feel guilty or regretted if the new baby is unprepared, unwilling, and the child may find it difficult to adapt. It is therefore important to be prepared for the new baby and to inform the child accordingly.
It is also not appropriate to expect your child to be unaffected by this important change and to feel no jealousy. Jealousy is a very natural feeling. It is a normal development that your child does not want to share you, has difficulty in this process and needs support. If you plan the birth and timing of the baby, you will facilitate your child's adaptation process. Children are more easily and quickly affected by the changes. Therefore, when making such an important decision, you should choose when there are no complexities in your child's life. For example; not to coincide with the time the child starts school and the arrival of the sibling, it may comfort him.
Try to Maintain Layout
Sharing your experiences with your child during and after your pregnancy and trying to involve it will make it easier for you to prepare for the new sibling. With the news of the new baby's future, you should definitely not disturb your child's order. If your baby is born for the first few days, you should pay special attention to your child and have relatives as close as possible to take care of them.
Don't speak in a disparaging manner
After the birth of your baby, you should not behave in a way that affects the psychology of your older child in your daily life.
- Don't be overly tolerant so your big kid won't get jealous.
- Don't be compromised.
- Do not praise your older child constantly and say the little one as evil to the older one.
- Do not try to protect your small child continuously.
Your child may decline
From time to time your older child may decline in the process of adapting to the new situation. So they may seem to have lost what they previously won. For example; a child who has just gained toilet training can begin to pee. This behavior describes the difficulty experienced by the child during the adaptation process. In such a case, it would be wrong to start nurturing your child again or punishing them for accidents. It is important that you understand the difficulty your child is experiencing and that you will survive this transition by supporting it. If the behavior you show to your child does not make it easier, you may need professional support. According to some views, gender and age are factors that increase or decrease jealousy. You should know that every child and every family experiences this new situation in their own relationship, completely unique.